Tuesday, April 6, 2010

It's Spring and I'm feeling SWEET!


Welcome to the Sweet Spring DT Blog Hop with the All About Me Design Team!  If you are just arriving at my blog, make sure you go back to the beginning at the AAM Blog.  From there, follow the links from each DT members blog to the next.  With this blog hop, we are revealing our layouts for the current challenge which is:

Self Improvement (Your biggest flaw)

I have plenty of flaws!  Who doesn't?  Here is one that has been fresh in my brain lately due to a couple of conversations I've had with friends:


{Story}
I'm an Otter when it comes to personality.  I love people.  I enjoy being around them and I like to be the center of attention!  I go from one thing to the next a lot and get bored with the same ole, same ole.  When I see people in pain (emotional and physical) it makes me ache but even with that internal compassion, I have a difficult time exuding it.  Why?  There is a deep seeded fear to get too close to people.  This stems from childhood and it's something that I don't like about myself.  Definitely a flaw!  I consider it a flaw because it prevents me from being the friend I desire to be!  I've had people in and out of my life over the years and I know that several of them have fizzled because of my lack of compassion.  For the few close friends I have now, that I love dearly, it has become easier for me to move past that fear .. my childhood fear.  I continue to convince that little girl that it's okay to allow people to love me and for me to return that love! It's okay to let them in because not everyone on this earth is going to hurt me.  There are good people.

{Journaling}
One of my many flaws is the ease to show compassion. Or lack of that ease. I care about people but it's difficult for me to exude that. Sparing all excuses - it is something I continue to struggle with.

{Materials}
Brown CS - Bazzill Basics
Patterned Paper - My Minds Eye "Be Loved"
Flowers and bling - Kaisercraft
Buttons - Bo Bunny
Pink letter stickers - American Crafts
Small letter stickers - Cosmo Cricket
Burlap and jute for bow
Tool - Silhouette SD

{Silhouette die cuts used}:
borders_c20090824234329_20509
circle_scallop_MED_1181
flourish_1018
frame_1025

Would you like the opportunity to win a prize?  I have one more card kit left that will make you these three cards:


Just leave me a comment and you MUST answer the following question:  How do you show compassion?
I'll draw the winner on April 20th!  Make sure you leave me a good way to contact you if you don't post a comment with a blogger account.

(You don't have to answer this) Did you know that leaving me a comment also helps get you closer to being eligible to win the fabulous April prize of the month on the AAM blog???? :)

Now.. get on with the hop and go visit July!  Have fun on the rest of the hop!  Can't wait to see what you all do with the challenge. :)

love,

32 comments:

Rach H said...

Beautiful layering! I love all of the pretty colors!

lkamphuis said...

Sounds awesome

cards look great too

Ashley said...
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Heather said...

What a beautiful layout!! I show compassion by listening carefully to people and offering lots of hugs and hand holding. I tend to be a very emotional person, so my heart often goes out to people.

Pamela said...

Love your layout! :)

Ashley said...

It is tough to show compassion & I find it easier to show it for my patients than I do my family/friends. I just try to be there & to let them know I'm there & to be a good listener.

Anne Marie said...

Super Layout.... stunning! Compassion??? thats a tough one? I would have to say by being there for someone!

Clair said...

Hey Melissa. You know I still think of you as a good friend, right? You were always very supportive of me! Compassion can be difficult to show, especially when you're in the middle of your own difficulties and have a busy life, but it can be as simple as listening carefully; giving someone a much needed hug or just letting someone know that you're thinking of them - your cards would be perfect for that! x

Mo said...

hmmmmm....compassion...I struggle with it too Melissa for the very same reason. I think what I've found to use in it's place is something more like empathy where I verbally say or write a note saying something to the effect of I understand you feel hurt, or sad, or sick...but I really have a hard time going further than that. I definitely feel I do not always express the compassion I feel inside to people. I love your beautiful layout and the lovely colors you used against the dark. It's gorgeous!

Hugs,
Mo

Diana said...

Gorgeous Page, love that picture.

*Monica* said...

Awesome layout, Melissa!

janis said...

love your layout melissa. i think i have the same problem - - showing compassion. most of the time, i just listen and try to put myself in someone's shoes. i don't really give advices unless asked, but i do give lots of hugs and "cheer me ups" and "you can do it" to make that someone feel better. ;o)

Rani said...

just gorgeous woman!!!
and very thoughtful!!!!

Sophia said...

Love your cute LO, such sweet spring colours...

Stella said...

Loved your story behind the layout. You definitely have a way with words....

As for how I show compassion, it really depends on who the person is that I'm showing it to. As a teacher, compassion often means extending a deadline for a student or allowing them to redo an assignment that maybe didn't go so well the first time. For my family compassion may mean that I make them a special meal, just because they have had a tough day. Or maybe I spend a little bit of extra time doing something that THEY want to do. For people outside those 2 circles, I try to sense when they are having a rough time and give them a word of encouragement, a card, or a little something to brighten up their day. Just yesterday my son and I baked a casserole and took it to the home of a colleague who had broken her arm in 3 places and was unable to use it to do her own cooking.

Casey Wright said...

Love your projects! I especially love that LO - your composition and colors are beautiful!

Carrie said...

Beautiful layout. I am a highly emotional person and because of this try to distance myself. I let my friends know that I am there if needed. But they know that I will usually share their tears with them.

twistedsoda said...

wow, I think you and I were cut from the same cloth! I do everything you do in life. It sometimes drives me crazy that I hear people talking about how many years they've been friends. Its not that I don't have alot of friends, I keep making new ones and then the old ones slip away. Its not that I don't love them but I really can't stand drama. Its the same way in my love life. Geeez...but I am getting better.

chenguna said...

Great page Melissa! I would have never thought this was your flaw! ;) This Blog Hop is so much fun!

lisa westphal said...

Wow. I love all of the thought you put into creating this LO. . .and the story behind it all.. .Wow. . .Who knew??

I believe I am a pretty compassionate person. I often try to shine a bright light on the positive. . .even when times are tough. I have a good ear. I listen and often try to help people with their dilemas, looking at a situation from different perspectives. And I think that part of being compassionate is helping others in need before they have to suck up their pride and ask for it. :)

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Pammi said...

I show compassion by being a good listener, no matter what time the call comes in. I give guidance when asked but mostly people just want to talk it out to come to the conclusion that is right for them. Sometimes making time to really listen to people is the most compassionate thing you can do.

Donna said...

I show compassion by making sure I have some sort of personal connection with my patients, every time, no matter how busy it is. In the middle of a crazy scene, chaos everywhere, I hope they remember a kind voice, someone holding their hand telling them "I'm going to take good care of you, it's okay" in the middle of all that mess.

scrappinmomto2girls said...

hopped here too :)

one way I show compassion is no matter what someone has going on I always offer to be there for them to talk to, I believe that talking is the best thing to do when anything is going on! I know how to keep my mouth shut and just listen.

Thx for a great contest!

Arlene said...

Hey Melissa!!!

I love your LO...you're the queen of negative space on a LO. :)

how I show compassion:

I am not exactly sure how...but I know that people find it extremely easy to unburden themselves around me...I have a sign that says "the DR is in" or something...cuz even complete strangers spark up convos with me...Maybe I just have a friendly face.

I just try to listen...and not be judgemental. even when the situation is tough....and words evade me, I just say it, "I'm so sorry you're going through this. words escape me, but I really feel for you" people just need a good ear to chew on I think. LOL.

Terry Oulboub said...

Hi Melissa - I love this blog hop and loved your video - you are a fascinating person! I love that layout; keeping everything on the focal point - great way to grab attention. ;) How do I show compassion is by listening. I'm a great listener. Often, you'll find people don't want any advice, just a person who understands where they are coming from. I let them get it all out and just ask them how they feel about whatever. If I don't know what to say, I don't say anything but offer a hug (which I'm not good at) or an understanding smile. Of course, giving a card is a much easier way to express myself. HAHA ---okay this is not my blog, just a comment....move on Terry! ;D

@100 lbs. ago said...

This is a lot of fun! Totally enjoying myself and being inspired by everyone's works of art...

See you!

stay scrappinpretty,
Lilia

mulberry station said...

Beautiful layout! Thanks for the inspiration!

Scrappin' Sisters said...

I love you layout. There are some great colors and it looks like some really neat textures.

I make a conscience effort to show compassion by simply listening and being there for the person. . .or even the situation. You can't fake that. I think for true compassion to happen you need to truly care. Takes practice and a lot of selflessness.

Scrappin' Sisters said...

Beautiful Layout.

I show compassion by being a stay at home mom. I think a lot of people think this is an easy job, when in fact it's the toughest thing I have ever tackled. But I do it because I love my family.

Louise
The "Scrappin' Mom"

ceruleanblue said...

Hi Melissa, I've finally found some time to hop!! Love your layout and thoughtful writing.

I think the best way I show compassion is by listening without judging.

Dora said...

gorgeous page, Melissa! off to hop, hop, hop.