Tuesday, May 24, 2011

Friends Change

It should be a given. Friendships change. As we grow and move along in our lives, seasons change and it would be natural for our relationships to change too. I have a few friends that I still hold close, even through all the changes, but I just count those as one's that God doesn't want to exit my life quite yet. One thing that comes up time and again are those friendships that have changed because of a new marital status. I'm still single. And I am happy. *gasp* I know, right? I'm single and happy??!! How can that be? While there is a piece of me that would love to find someone and be married, I'm quite content and enjoying this time I have with just me. I love being able to do what I want, when I want, how I want and without having to ask or compromise. Not that those are bad things... I'm just glad I don't have to be in that place right now.  Which tells me that I am exactly where I'm suppose to be.

This does bring up an issue though. It's a quiet issue.  For some it isn't one. And bear with me while I "go there" because I do realize there are two sides to the coin. Totally get that. So while I talk about my side, know that I'm not attacking or saying the other side is wrong. They are both right. It's both parties responsibility to help the other though.  Here goes... if you are married, please do not feel like your single friends would feel awkward being invited to events with mostly married couples. If you are all good friends, that is exactly what it is. And when we, your single friends, don't get invited, it makes us feel like outcasts. I know it's not meant to be that way but it's what happens. I admit, I had a little bit of a hissy fit when I did this layout. There is some sarcasm as symbolism here. I used the pretty colors and nice smiley photo of myself, when underneath it was fake. I put on a nice front but inside I'm sad and upset.


The arrow on this layout is the main breaking point for this layout. I loved adding the zig zag piece too because I felt that between the two of these elements - it portrays perfectly what I'm feeling. I am happy. I love my friends. But there are those wee moments when I see some fun activities happening and only the married couples got an invite. Yes. Deep down I know that it's important for people to connect with others who are on a similar path but it is valid for me to work through my tantrum. :)


Again, I hope you see this as me just working through an issue. There's no need to give consolation or defend yourself. I love all my friends. But sometimes I have these little moments of "it's not fair!"

All supplies except for the bakers twine (Jillibean Soup) are from the May Friendship kit from Scrapbooking from the Inside Out.

hugs,
Melissa

P.S. Might I add that the times I do spend time with ALL my friends, married or not, FAR outweighs those rare times when I'm not invited. I'm just a dramatic person is all. :)

6 comments:

jamie long said...

great post Melissa, love the page too.

Tammy said...

I can totally relate. I don't have a lot of friends my age (late 30's) that are still single like me. I understand why they want it "couples only" but yes, it's exclusion and it does suck. I love your layout and that scrapbooking can help us work through our stuff. :)

ScrappnBee said...

*cyber hug* Sorry that you got left out. I blow raspberries in their general direction for you-LOL! Love the layout though (esp. the buttons). I am glad that your scrapping gives you an outlet! Thanks for sharing it too!

charli said...

Hey, on those days when I want to sell my husband for a buck, should I send him to you for a week?

Tracy said...

I really love your layout.
I agree with being single. I dream...I mean I remember those days, lol.
I have 3 daughters, my oldest 21, dreams of a home, marriage and children. My middle daughter 20, does not want to get married or have children or even a boyfriend. She loves her life as it is.
Either way as long as my girls are happy that is what my dream is for them :)
Good for you for knowing what you want :)

Audrey Pettit said...

Aww, it's ok to be dramatic! After all, that's what scrapping is all about.......to scrap our life moments, good and bad. :)
Totally digging that white tree thingy with the buttons on here. Love the symbolism of the arrow and ric rac trim, too.