Thursday, July 5, 2012

Just Talk To Me

Have you ever felt misunderstood?

Does it happen a lot?

It happens to me every once in awhile. But what has recently come to my attention is that I feel misunderstood when it comes to my personality. I'm pretty clear in verbalizing what I need to say. It's just that my demeanor leads folks to think otherwise. I don't know. I've just been surprised by several comments that have been made by people who spend more time with me.

For example, one gal mentioned to me that I was intimidating but then after hanging out with me, she realized I was very down to earth. Me. Intimidating. I had never been told that before. In fact, while there is definitely a level of security deep inside of me, I worry a lot about what people think of me. But I guess that itty bit of confidence outshines my worry. It's a blessing but I don't want people to be intimidated by me.

The other is people assume things such as, I've got lots of friends and always have plans. Therefore, I don't get invited to events or told about things. And that's fine. I do have my core group with whom I hang out with but I love meeting new people. It's nice to know that there is an open invitation without the assumption that I'm already busy. Because I'm not always busy. In fact, while I do have that core group, my sphere of friends has shrunk quite significantly.

So what would I like to say to all that?

Don't assume.

Just talk to me. :)


I loved being able to express this emotion on a layout. Again, perfect timing with this kit from Scrapbooking from the Inside Out. Perfect topic and perfect symbolism and product to go with.


The flowers were created with a die cut I have for the Cuttlebug.


Throw in some layering and a sticker with the perfect statement - no judgement allowed! (Easier said than done!)


On the flip side of all this, I am challenging myself to not assume things of others as well. Just because someone has confidence or always seems to be with a friend, that doesn't mean anything. We all have feelings. We all need to hear we are valued and cared for. I don't care if you are an introvert or an extrovert.
And I'm not looking for sympathy or anything. I'm a grown up and can handle this. In fact, I'm looking at it as a learning and growing experience. Do I truly have to be invited to everything? Am I really giving off a welcoming vibe or do I shut everyone out? It's been a cool opportunity to look within at what I could change too.

3 comments:

Lisa Rukin Swift said...

Love the banners and your embellishment cluster in the corner!

soapHOUSEmama said...

Great post as always and I know I can relate to not always being understood...especially by my in-laws! Love your layout :)

Sarah Webb said...

Great choice of the orange background! I can appreciate a lot of what you are saying! TFS!